Grieving is a process that requires acknowledging our emotions. Unfortunately they is no way to avoid the pain, its going to hurt and ignoring it will just make it worse. The way we feel has a direct impact on our mental and physical health, so it’s important to acknowledge our emotions. When we experience a loss, we can feel a whole range of emotions, with no predictability. We can feel anger, sadness, disbelief, fear, devastation, loneliness, and so many more. Whatever comes up, let it.
Ignoring your emotions and your grief is not going to help in the long term. One particularly helpful way to work through grief is to discuss it. Whether in professional setting, like counselling, or a more casual, like a chat with a friend. It can also be helpful to find a community of other people who are experiencing grief. Finding someone else going through loss and supporting each other can be valuable. Other people who are grieving will understand what you’re going through. If there isn’t anyone you feel comfortable sharing your feelings with, try writing them in a journal, or even a voice note on your phone but always remember you are not alone. There are lots of online communities and support lines like Cruse Bereavement Care 0808 808 1677.
The feeling of loss may feel too raw or too emotional to talk about. You may not know how to describe the sense of loss or sadness you are feeling. We don’t always have the capacity to name our feelings at the best of times, let alone when we are experiencing intense emotions. Remember that you don’t have to force yourself to talk about every aspect of your loss straight away. Share little pieces until you feel safe enough to share more. Also, remember that its okay to cry whilst talking about grief.
The Farewell Guide is a free online funeral planner that supports consumers through end-of-life planning. The founders found themselves in a cloud of grief with no direction or support. So they have created this safe and supportive community, which is much needed during this difficult time. Always remember you are doing the best you can at this time!